One of the most basic areas of confusion among parents is whether or not a family is a democracy. If parents feel it is one, composed of equals, then they usually avoid leadership and back off from discipline. But a family is not a democracy – neither power nor responsibility is equally distributed between children and adults. In order to feel secure children need their parents to provide behavior control and decision making in the early years because they can’t solve problems alone. They need to be taught to share, wait, respect others and accept responsibility for their behavior. Although limit-setting may make children feel frustrated and resentful, it helps them learn self-control and to balance their wishes against those of others.
--Carolyn Webster-Stratton, The Incredible Years: A Trouble Shooting Guide for Parents of Children Aged 3-8
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